The Good Sons Club

Bold Moves Back On The Path

2007-06-20T10:54:00.000-07:00

Those who argue for the strong nuclear family ideal need a bolder view of family.

Nuclear families are too vulnerable to the many onslaughts from modern threats. Divorce, addiction, the expansion of individualism, peer pressures, harsh economic realities , serious illness, and many more forces are threatening to all family types. These forces can too easily turn a two parent family into an economically and culturally vulnerable single parent family or a dysfunctional two parent family.

Looking at the nuclear family as the ideal is short sighted. It iwould be like looking at a single Conestoga wagon, then saying it was the ideal way to move your family across the dangerous western frontier. Rather, it was the formation of many wagons into wagon trains that offered the ideal.

Wagon trains were made up of a number of families united in a purpose. Their purpose was not much different than what families face today. Their purpose was to deal with adversity while moving forward towards greater opportunity. Is their any nuclear, blended, single parent ,or any other type of family which does not have this dual purpose? Dealing with adversity and opportunity is the dual purpose of life.

This is not to imply that it takes a village to raise a child. It is an argument for braiding the nuclear family to its extended family. This in turn makes for stronger social capital and benificial ties to a wider community. Of course this also applies to single parent families.

This is not an argument for turning the clock back to a better time. Rather , it is a challenge to get back on the right path.

Imagine, a wagon train that has found it has wandered off the intended trail. A well led wagon train can pick up the correct trail at a point forward of where it left off. Thus, bypassing parts of the correct path. By moving forward, the wagon train can avoid wasting time, energy and resources. Too often, the argument for stronger families seems like a return to the past. In reality it is only a call to get back on the right path.

How did a wagon train fulfill its purpose?

First, came a bold view of the opportunity that was ahead. Next a realization that both expected and unexpected adversities required unity. Then came the many incremental steps that went into planning, funding, supplying and moving forward.

With this analogy, I hope to illustrate , that we make conscious efforts to form a bolder view of what a strong family really is.

Reinvigorate Fathers Day

2007-06-15T11:26:00.000-07:00

Lets add something to the celebration of Fathers Day! In addition to remembering our fathers present & past, lets encourage the fathers of the future.

Why not send cards to promising young men to celebrate the hope of fatherhood? I am sure many young men may find this a bitter pill. It may seem like mom always hinting about marriage. However, it is really about being a man.

On Fathers Day, what gifts might we give to the newly married young men which celebrates the manly purpose of marriage? What heirlooms can be passed on?

In addition to what is said and written about the past memories of our fathers, let us see and hear from those that advocate for the future of fatherhood.

What Fathers day events can we reinvigorate with this added purpose?

Lets reinvigorate the day and lets reinvigorate this important aspect of life.

Extended Family As A Technology

2007-06-02T09:39:00.001-07:00

We might benefit from pondering upon family as technology.

Richard Nelson of Columbia University Identifies Physical Technology which consists of what we traditionally think of as technology such as:stone tools, steam engines, telephone,aviation etc.

Nelson also identifies Social Technology defined as ways of organizing people to do things. Commonly this would be thought of as partnerships, forms of governments, corporations , associations, clubs, guilds, unions professional associations etc.

How -- and What -- Americans Eat At Night Hardly Resembles The Tables of Decades Ago | theledger.com

2006-08-20T07:47:00.000-07:00

How -- and What -- Americans Eat At Night Hardly Resembles The Tables of Decades Ago theledger.com

Is one gender better at uniting family than another?

2006-08-14T13:11:00.000-07:00

My answer to this question is somewhat ambiguous. It depends upon for what purpose and for what duration of time. I think matriarchs are very good at keeping their families united. Especially, as it concerns immediate economic needs. However, this type of strong family is more likely to dissipate it's power after the matriarch is either deceased or her economic well being has been assured.

On the other hand my observation is that families united by patriarchal motives have differing tendencies. I believe that patriarchal motives tend more toward a long lasting legacy. I think that many patriarchs may seem to be creating rivalries and creating competitors among family members. Especially, in how they play favorites among siblings. However, this tendency is designed to strengthen individuals or select individuals that aid the patriarchs long lasting legacy. In other words the family is united around the need for strength and around an authoritarian model. This serves a different purpose. A purpose that is aligned with the evolved patriarchal instincts and motives to participate in the nurturing process.

The rise in single moms along with families with fewer children has diminished much of the patriarchal motives for marriage. Furthermore, male dynastic instincts become latent as women have gained influence. This is not a feminist conspiracy. Rather, it is the result of women's rising status as heads of households, along with the natural motives of the child bearing women. It is the nature that leads to nurture, which in turn leads to family types.

It is my opinion, when there is an opportunity to blend patriarchal and matriarchal motives the result is an extraordinary family type. What we often see as dysfunctional family is the result of a failure to blend the motives of each gender towards a unified family scheme.

BAW: Guardianship Programs Help Black Grandparents Perpetuate Extended Family Traditions

2006-08-12T09:01:00.000-07:00

The following article shows how our laws and government agencies can get behind extended family values. Unfortunately, it also shows how this is not always the case.
BAW: Guardianship Programs Help Black Grandparents Perpetuate Extended Family Traditions

Family firm builds on area's home market - Orlando Sentinel : Business

2006-08-11T10:57:00.000-07:00

Not only is this a family business, it also has included floor plans that accomidate extended families. It illustrates how a growing Hispanic culture may affect the future of family lifestyles.
Family firm builds on area's home market - Orlando Sentinel : Business

Technology Brings Extended Family Together News - Post-Tribune (Northwest Indiana)

2006-08-10T11:02:00.000-07:00

The following article is an event that fore shadows a future of great possibilities. Especially for the revitalization of extended family bonds. After you read this story, ask yourself some questions about the future. What will be possible when this technology is more affordable and accessible? How will it connect family? Why will people use the technology? Who will be able to grasp what it means for family?
News - Post-Tribune (Northwest Indiana)

allAfrica.com: Zambia: Lupando Calls for Restoration of Extended Family Culture

2006-08-08T09:45:00.000-07:00

allAfrica.com: Zambia: Lupando Calls for Restoration of Extended Family Culture

Supervisor candidate has $100,000 grubstake from family and friends

2006-08-08T09:22:00.000-07:00

The following story is a great illustration of the power of extended family. An extended family can use the habit of contribution to extend the power of family. The wider family is supportive of and ready to invest in the personal growth of one member. It illustrates growth of the family power to create opportunity and deal with adversity.
Supervisor candidate has $100,000 grubstake from family and friends

What Diminishes The Power Of Our Families?

2006-08-07T10:36:00.000-07:00

In my opinion, the biggest factor in diminishing the power of family, is thinking of family as insignificant. Sometimes this takes the form of purposely shunning nepotistic advantages. It is not that we may think of family as insignificant in our lives, but rather as insignificant when compared to the institutions which seem to be much larger. Such as Government, Schools, Businesses, Churches, Unions and other large institutions. Peer groups loom larger than family.

We have come to associate economic and social power with organizations which have benefited from urbanism and modernization. What seems to have been missed is how a few dynastic thinkers have adapted to change in ways that have increased the power of their family. Some are newly emerging families. Others are families that have adapted over the centuries to new conditions.

If you closely examine these few families, one thing is clear. They see their large extended family as significant or more significant than other institutions. Nepotistic advantage is not totally shunned. Often, they come from cultures that were more resistant to modernity.

In contrast, many moderns shun family influences. Often, family influence is shunned. Shunned in favor of:: individualism, the influence of peer groups or in favor of personal development outside of the family. While these are not purposely destructive of family life, they become part of an insidious process which diminishes the modern view of extended family. It is part of our individual experiences.

Unless one or more family members properly instills an appreciation for nepotistic advantage, extended family will be viewed as insignificant. The potential power of the family will be latent and diminished. In other words, sentiment looms larger than influence. Family rituals become less meaningful. Family members begin to choose peer groups over kinship groups. Benefits of family life are less connected to every day life.

It is similar to putting your money under a mattress and forgetting it is there. The power of your money diminishes with inflation. Until you realize the power of investing you gain nothing and allow the power to diminish.
You might think you value the money, but you act in ways that make it less significant.

Winston-Salem Journal | Ask Amy - HOW FAR IS CLOSE? Definition of extended family isn't easy

2006-08-05T10:32:00.000-07:00

Winston-Salem Journal Ask Amy - HOW FAR IS CLOSE? Definition of extended family isn't easy

Lessons About The Value Of Family

2006-08-04T13:14:00.000-07:00

In the movie "It's A Wonderful Life" George Bailey (Jimmy Stewart) is taken by Clarence his guardian angel on a guded tour of his life in an odd retrospect.

George learns the value of his single life. George gets an opportunity to see what the consequences would be, had he never been born. He gets to see the value of his life. You see how his mother grows old as a childless widow. His uncle is sent off to an insane asylum . His brother dies as a young boy. And his wife lives life as a lonely spinster. George Bailey is not even a memory to his family and friends. Since George is not there to make his contributions to family and community the whole community suffers.

Now, I ask you to imagine the story line is turned around a bit. This time it is your life we examine in retrospect. And instead of your family and community without you, we see what your life would be like without your family. We look at those family members who have contributed not only to your life,but to your community.

What would we see? What lessons can we learn as our guardian angel guides us through this type of past? How does your real past life compare to this imagined past?

I would love to hear what you think you would see. It would be great to hear what lessons you will learn from this mental experiment. Please share them with us!

Later this month I will share the lessons I learn from this exercise.

Family Ties - Women

2006-08-02T09:40:00.000-07:00

Some excellent ideas on keeping our extended families close!
Family Ties - Women

icWales - Up to a third of Welsh divorce kids lose touch with a parent

2006-08-02T08:34:00.000-07:00

icWales - Up to a third of Welsh divorce kids lose touch with a parent

The right lessons? From Guardian Unlimited: Mortar Board

2006-08-02T08:26:00.000-07:00

The following article illustrates how when extended family is absent other institutions either take up the slack or people suffer consequences. The costs often affect society as a whole. The following example also illustrates how other institutions make such adaptive strategies a secondary function. Functions, such as passing on parenting skills, are primary within an extended family. In institutions like schools, the function is an afterthought and secondary.
The right lessons? from Guardian Unlimited: Mortar Board

The Good Sons Club Theme For August: Power Diminished

2006-08-02T07:58:00.000-07:00

This month The Good Sons Club theme will focus on the forces and factors that dissipate the power of family.
We will look at outside forces. We will examine forces that originate within the family itself. Also we will make some observations about the types of family structure that contribute to diminished power.

HispanicTrending: Core values & common traits in the Heterogeneous Hispanic American Market

2006-07-28T11:45:00.000-07:00

From Blackwell Publishing Press Room A Study On The Performance Of Family Firms

2006-07-28T10:54:00.000-07:00

Study Shows Family Firms Perform Better Than Others
Blackwell Publishing Press Room

Spouse Courtesy of Mom the Matchmaker - New York Times

2006-07-27T13:54:00.000-07:00

The following article is a good example of:

How we can adapt the old to the new for stronger family.
How parents can avoid the undue influence of peer groups as well as public and private institutions.
How children can and will often look to parents for wisdom.

In addition, the examples and case histories used in the article illustrate:

How in adapting their family life to new technology, and new cultural norms some ethnic groups are ahead of others.
A new appreciation of parenting.
Spouse Courtesy of Mom the Matchmaker - New York Times

Article about aging families: The Ithaca Journal - www.theithacajournal.com - Ithaca, NY

2006-07-26T11:49:00.000-07:00

The following article points out how aging parents are experiencing unexpected demands from their older children. The article points out a good number of issues raised by the aging family.
The Ithaca Journal - www.theithacajournal.com - Ithaca, NY

A Dynastic Model With Strong Community Values:Third Federal - American Executive Spotlight

2006-07-24T11:25:00.000-07:00

Ben Stefanski founded a family business which is one of the best examples of The Good Sons Club principles. Special note should be made of how one strong family can make significant contributions to a wider community.
Third Federal - American Executive Spotlight

The significance of others - Los Angeles Times

2006-07-24T11:18:00.000-07:00

The following article very much got my attention! The issues it raises are important to understanding why today family leaders need to see peer groups as potential danger to family. The article also shows the how we have an opportunity to exploit the internet as tool to stay connected as family.
The significance of others - Los Angeles Times

Extended Family Gatherings preserve traditions

2006-07-22T09:26:00.000-07:00

Gatherings preserve traditions

More On Dynastic Role Models:

2006-07-20T10:43:00.000-07:00

Our discussion of dynastic role models assumes; dynastic behavior can be learned. This is not an easy assumption to make. History seems to indicate; that like many talents, it is instinctive behavior. Instincts which some people have in a greater degree than others.

However, history also shows where a founding patriarch, (the one who has the instinct) seems to be able to pass dynastic techniques on to his heirs. Mayer Amschel Rothschild is a very good example. It is his example along with many others, which leads us to the assumption that dynastic thinking can be instilled. That it can be taught.

Make no mistake. This assumption does not mean everyone has the same dynastic capacity.

It may be, that dynastic instincts will be dormant until something triggers it. For example, many family founders seem to be men who lost their fathers early in life. Resulting in their having, at a young age, much family responsibility. Dynastic behavior may be triggered by having many children. Having many sons may be a particular trigger.

A shared family enterprise, may be another factor which accounts for dynastic behavior. To what degree is the right mate significant?

Some of us have a great capacity to learn music others less capacity. So too, some of us have a small capacity for dynastic thinking and others a great capacity. Just as many can derive great benefit from those who are great at music. Many may benefit from those with a great degree of dynastic abilities.

Learn From Those That Use Extended Family As Their Model:

2006-07-19T11:49:00.000-07:00

To be informed about extended family issues I use Google Alerts. I have them alert me when they find the phrase "extended family" being used in a news item or on the web.

So often the phrase "like an extended family" comes up. Many times the phrase is used in the context of a group of unrelated people who "act like an extended family". It will bring to mind that; businesses,clubs, community groups, neighborhoods, schools, churches and even criminal gangs use the extended family as their model or as an ideal organizational structure.

Is it not ironic. As, this is a time when we increasingly live apart from our actual extended family.

From this observation, can we at least learn the following:

To value our own extended family.
To give some thought to the potential power of extended family resources.
To play active roles in keeping family members united.
To contribute socially and economical to our extended family.

"Every man has the opportunity to be a good son".

MiamiHerald.com | 07/16/2006 | Multigenerational households are making a comeback across a varied demographic range

2006-07-17T12:00:00.000-07:00

MiamiHerald.com 07/16/2006 Multigenerational households are making a comeback across a varied demographic range

Businesses work to control, benefit from nepotism

2006-07-17T09:42:00.000-07:00

Businesses work to control, benefit from nepotism

Using The Modern Networking Organization As A Dynastic Model

2006-07-14T10:10:00.000-07:00

The following compares the idea of Networlding vs Networking .
Look closely and you will see similarities with the principles of the The Good Sons Club and our concept of

The Dynamic Family Table.

Mutual Aid and Support resting upon the legs of

Contribution,Growth,Unity and Longevity

As mentioned in yesterdays post, the modern networking organization represents an opportunity for the wise dynast.

One opportunity: model the best groups. Model them for their ideas on building relationships.
Second, the opportunity to use networking groups as a means to intelligently expand the family's influence.
Also, using networking groups offers a way to create opportunity.
In addition, family leaders will have an opportunity to mitigate the influence peer groups have upon individaul family members. Allowing for peer groups to have positive influences, but doing so within the context of family. Thus, preventing peer groups from replacing family.

I would also stress that a family that has disparate occupations should especially use the model. Families that share a stake in a family business or occupation of course benefit. However, it is the family with disparate occupations that needs to unite around the concept of consciously and systematically uniting around shared relationships.

Adam Bellow in his book "In Praise of Nepotism" points out how the Kennedy family formed relationships that acted like "concentric rings" around the central core of the family. This was done by consciously networking and developing relationships.

If family is important, then have an importnat family!

SuccessNet from BNI

2006-07-13T15:18:00.000-07:00

Looking for a Dynastic model? Try looking at today's networking organizations.
How and why do we use them as models?

SuccessNet from BNI

Today's networking groups are a substitute for strong extended family. In the past business networking was done through networks made primarily from family and close friends. One dynamic aspect of today's culture is the level to which peer groups become more influencing than kinship groups.

However, you can see the development as an opportunity for wise family leaders. If you look closely, you will see these are organization which can be braided with family. They are groups where a family with diverse occupations can employ entrepreneurial techniques. Techniques that were once reserved for the families that either shared occupations or shared a stake in the family business.

What can be learned from them?

They ask their members to contribute their relationships.
They find ways to meet regularly as a group. To meet they use either a common place, teleconferencing or on the internet.
The group is aimed at growing the influence of the group to the benefit of each member.
The best networking groups are supportive of each members personal growth.
The group has a stake in each members growth.
The group has an expectation of longevity.

Contribution, Growth, Unity and Longevity are the legs which networking groups rest upon.

The Standard | Online Edition

2006-07-13T07:56:00.000-07:00

Family Ties: An Anchor For Your Soul!
The Standard Online Edition

Family business - baltimoresun.com

2006-07-13T07:53:00.000-07:00

The following article shows how Southwest Airlines and other businesses balance merit and nepotism.
Family business - baltimoresun.com

The Kennedy Dynastic Family Model

2006-07-12T10:22:00.000-07:00

In his excellent book "In Praise Of Nepotism" author Adam Bellow credits Joseph Kennedy as being "the greatest American nepotist of the 20th century". The author is frank in saying that Joe Kennedy had some "unattractive" qualities. In addition the author admits that "Joe Kennedy's dynastic enterprise illuminates the darker side of nepotism: the fruit of an erotic drive so strong that it destroys the thing it loves."

In examining Joe Kennedy Adam Bellow concludes that "No one teaches these methods or skills"

In my opinion, Adam Bellow has taken the first step and become our teacher. His work "In Praise of Nepotism" provides us with the models to use and the author does a good job of observing the strategies that work, while pointing out the excesses to be avoided.

I have concluded that the Adam Bellow is correct about Joe Kennedy's greatness as a nepotist. Therefore: we would be wise to use him as a model.

"Wealth" by Stuart E. Lucas Nominated For A prestigious Award

2006-07-10T11:07:00.000-07:00

Nominated for the Financial Times and Goldman Sachs Business Book of the year Award 2006

In addition, the August issue of Worth Magazine features an article "Overcoming Entropy" written by Stuart E. Lucas. The article is about lessons learned by the author's family after the sale of their business.

Mr. Lucas is an advocate of multigenerational wealth. I have found his work highly compatible with the principles of The Good Sons Club.

Extended Family Creating Opportunity: New Zealand's source for business, stock market & currency news on Stuff.co.nz: Sharing the property burden

2006-07-10T09:27:00.000-07:00

While the following article talks about sharing a burden it also points out how opportunity can be shared. By pooling resources an opportunity is created.
New Zealand's source for business, stock market & currency news onStuff.co.nz: Sharing the property burden

Where do we find dynastic role models?

2006-07-07T15:29:00.000-07:00

History provides good and bad dynastic models.
Examples include:
The Kennedy familiy model

Mayer Amshel Rothschild

The Medici Model

The Bush Model

CANOE Money: Personal Finance - Second marriages add complexity to financial planning

2006-07-06T13:11:00.001-07:00

The following article illustrates the need for an overall extended family stratigy:
CANOE Money: Personal Finance - Second marriages add complexity to financial planning

Lexington Herald-Leader | 07/06/2006 | Adoption policies under review

2006-07-06T08:25:00.000-07:00

Public Institutions will not consider the interests of extended family unless extended family or advocates for extended family hold public institutions to account. The following article is a good illustrattion:
Lexington Herald-Leader 07/06/2006 Adoption policies under review

iParenting: Contest All American Mom Contest

2006-07-05T13:17:00.000-07:00

See iParentings All American Mom contest
iParenting: Contest

July Theme Dynastic Role Models

2006-07-05T09:52:00.000-07:00

The theme for July will be dynastic role models. We will look at note worthy dynastic thinkers and examine their success and failures. Also we will be looking for your comments and would like to open up The Good Sons Club Blog to other contributors.

Adam Bellow on Nepotism, Cronyism & Harriet Miers on National Review Online

2006-07-05T07:11:00.000-07:00

Adam Bellow on Nepotism, Cronyism & Harriet Miers on National Review Online

Family ties thrive at Ventnor beach home

2006-07-03T11:06:00.000-07:00

Family ties thrive at Ventnor beach home

The Enquirer - Home grown

2006-07-03T10:57:00.000-07:00

The following story is an example of how a strong extended family syatem takes advantage of opportunity and can adapt to change.
The Enquirer - Home grown

Century Club: Her hospitality drew in extended family members

2006-06-30T15:51:00.000-07:00

Century Club: Her hospitality drew in extended family members

Lexington Herald-Leader | 06/25/2006 | Custody may go to foster care over kin

2006-06-30T15:35:00.000-07:00

Are we all headed in this direction? Is all family going to be replaced by the state, market forces and peer groups? The following case history is all too common.
Lexington Herald-Leader 06/25/2006 Custody may go to foster care over kin

Substitute for extended family The Sun Herald | 06/30/2006 | Counselors should help parents be more authoritative

2006-06-30T09:37:00.000-07:00

The Sun Herald 06/30/2006 Counselors should help parents be more authoritative

Warren Buffett's actions speak louder than his words:Buffett always intended to give it all away - Business - International Herald Tribune

2006-06-29T12:22:00.000-07:00

Warren Buffett's actions speak louder than his words. Warren Buffett's actions say something about dynastic wealth that is contradictory to his words. In the following article from the Innternational Herald Tribune, you will find many Buffett quotes. Many of the quotes would lead you to believe that Warren Buffett does not believe in dynastic wealth.

Look very closely at Warren Buffet's relationship to a younger Bill Gates. In that relationship you will see his actions speak otherwise. In short, if he had a son, daughter, nephew or niece as competent as Bill Gates, Buffett would have put the money in that persons hands.

Obviously, Buffett does not object to concentrated wealth. As that is exactly what he is doing with his bequest. Buffett also describes his view of those who live on inherited wealth. I think that view is simplistic and a generalization. It is a view which ignores the good that can be generated from dynastic wealth.

Buffett always intended to give it all away - Business - International Herald Tribune

As to the power of dynastic wealth I would refer to two books by two different authors:Family Capitalism by Harold James and Wealth by Stuart E. Lucas

The Hudson Reporter - Home Sweet HobokenThe Shannon Lounge - three generations of family

2006-06-28T14:16:00.000-07:00

The Hudson Reporter - Home Sweet HobokenThe Shannon Lounge - three generations of family

Grandparents Today: Articles: Leaving an Inheritance

2006-06-28T07:33:00.000-07:00

Grandparents Today: Articles: Leaving an Inheritance

Is Dynastic Thinking Instinct Or Learned?

2006-06-22T16:24:00.000-07:00

This question comes to mind every time I think or read about powerful families. Families like the Rothschild or the Kennedy clans. . Many more examples exist.

The record shows the dynastic thinking of Rothschild family founder Mayer Amschel Bauer. This man is able to pass on dynastic instructins to his sons. Mayer's instructions enables the family to operate as one strong unit over many centuries.

Is dynastic thinking learned or is it instinct? Is it like some instincts, dormant until something brings it out? Could it be that bearing many sons brings the instinct out? Is it an instinct held dormant by economic circumstance or operating despite circumstance?

Is dynastic thinking a natural part of our desire for self-actualization, A desire only fulfilled after security and other lower needs are met?

Is it an instinct that some have & others do not? Can it be learned?

Extended Family Deals With Adversity:Philadelphia Inquirer | 06/21/2006 | Endless Summers for Shore Businesses

2006-06-21T13:28:00.000-07:00

The following article illustrates the benifts of extended family during times of adversity:
Philadelphia Inquirer 06/21/2006 Endless Summers for Shore Businesses

Timber Becomes Tool in Effort to Cut Estate Tax - New York Times

2006-06-21T13:15:00.000-07:00

Timber Becomes Tool in Effort to Cut Estate Tax - New York Times

Red Bluff Daily News Online - Call goes out to foster families

2006-06-21T10:44:00.000-07:00

The following article is a good demonstration. It illustrates that without natural extended family systems, the state is forced to find substitute family systems.
Red Bluff Daily News Online - Call goes out to foster families

Charlotte Observer | 06/17/2006 | How to include distant relatives

2006-06-20T13:59:00.000-07:00

Charlotte Observer 06/17/2006 How to include distant relatives

The Power That comes From Passing Something On - Guardians of the Gardens

2006-06-20T13:48:00.000-07:00

The following story represents the powerful things we can be part of when we choose to do two things. One choose to accept what has passed on to us with a sense of steardship. Second, finding creative ways to pass on a legacy.
Guardians of the Gardens

FEWER 'EMPTY NESTS' AS PEOPLE HELP EACH OTHER

2006-06-16T07:21:00.001-07:00

FEWER 'EMPTY NESTS' AS PEOPLE HELP EACH OTHER

This research investigates the use of extended family housing as an alternative type of dwelling. It discusses

2006-06-16T07:21:00.000-07:00

This research investigates the use of extended family housing as an alternative type of dwelling. It discusses

Designed for a large family

2006-06-16T07:09:00.000-07:00

Housing ideas that can be utilized by extended family:
SouthCoastToday.com - Charles: Designed for a large family - June 17, 2006

Happy Father's Day!

2006-06-15T15:30:00.000-07:00

Happy Father's Day!

The Challenge Of Building Upon A Father's Legacy

2006-06-14T17:46:00.000-07:00

Fatherhood includes preparing the next generations to build upon legacy.
globeandmail.com : It's now David's turn to lead

Get Dad And The Grads Together!

2006-06-12T16:55:00.000-07:00

Graduation time comes right around Fathers Day. The magic formula for fatherhood is time spent with children. Graduation signals that opporunities for time together may be diminishing. Before that happens why not find some things to do together. Right now! If you need to be reminded of why let Harry Chapin inspire you.
If you need some ideas on what to do Click Here

For some, the perfect community can be built

2006-06-12T10:55:00.000-07:00

Might we combine the ideas of co-housing development with revitalized extended family concepts? What might be the result? Can we do this at different economic levels?
For some, the perfect community can be built

The Potential Contributions Of Strong Extended Families

2006-06-12T10:47:00.000-07:00

Strong extended families that learn to pool monies and build wealth tthen become strong contributors to the community at large.
Hillsboro Free Press

SocietyGuardian.co.uk | Social care | Bridging the gap

2006-06-12T10:42:00.000-07:00

Strong extended family concepts aid intergenerational issues.
SocietyGuardian.co.uk Social care Bridging the gap

From The Hillsboro Free Press

2006-06-07T10:38:00.000-07:00

An extended family invests in community. The following article provides a demonstration of The Good Sons Principle of Contribution.
Hillsboro Free Press

Kentucky Has A Kinship Care Program

2006-06-06T16:45:00.000-07:00

Kinship Care makes good use of extended family members in situations where children are abused or neglected:
See Article below for more.
The Gleaner: News from The Gleaner

Dads Today:Articles:The Involved Dad

2006-06-06T10:46:00.000-07:00

Dads Today:Articles:The Involved Dad

Fathers and Nepotism In A New Light

2006-06-03T13:07:00.000-07:00

As we discuss fatherhood we will review some new and revised thinking about Nepotism.

As Adam Bellow states in his Book "In Praise Of Nepotism" :
"People who feel there's something missing in their family relationships are right: sons often complain they don't feel close enough to their fathers, and there's a reason-they are no longer on the veldt learning to hunt and trap game or working together in a craft or business. Without such shared pursuits, fathers have less occasion to teach their children about life and get the satisfaction that goes with it." Bellow feels that "emulating dynastic families would be a good way to overcome some of the biggest problems and dissatisfactions of modern life."

Stuart E. Lucas in his book "Wealth" seems to put yet another positive spin on Nepotism as he discusses a "Nepotistic Advantage".

If family is important, then have an important family.

The Good Sons Club June Theme Fatherhood

2006-06-02T12:17:00.000-07:00

In keeping with Fathers Day this June 18th The Good Sons Club Theme for June will be Fatherhood.
Your comments about Fatherhood we be welcome.

Three Books To Consider For Your Family's Benifit

2006-05-30T17:32:00.000-07:00

If family is important, then have an important family!

winnipegsun.com - Football - Family drives backup hope

2006-05-30T17:23:00.000-07:00

winnipegsun.com - Football - Family drives backup hope

More Adults Over 50 Use the Internet than Ever Before

2006-05-30T16:35:00.000-07:00

More Adults Over 50 Use the Internet than Ever Before

WEALTH STRATEGIST NETWORK

2006-05-30T10:40:00.000-07:00

WEALTH STRATEGIST NETWORK

More On Building Wealth

2006-05-27T14:50:00.000-07:00

Stuart E. Lucas thee author of" Wealth" admits to a bias towards a multigenerational approach to building wealth. You will find that Lucas advocates taking advantage of what he calls "Nepotistic Advantage". Lucas points out how an individual family or investor may do better by pooling money.

Lucas has an approach that is totaly fitting with The Good Sons Club Principles. The author is excellent in describing how we can do a better job of choosing and managing our professional advisors. You will find the book is a better read than most financial management books. The drama and history of the authors own family makes for a good story. A humorous glossary also helps make this a good read.

Honor elderly parents 05/26/06

2006-05-26T07:37:00.000-07:00

Honor elderly parents 05/26/06

Families Add 3rd Generation to Households - New York Times

2006-05-25T08:49:00.000-07:00

Families Add 3rd Generation to Households - New York Times

Grandparents 'becoming parents again' - Breaking News - National - Breaking News

2006-05-24T10:22:00.000-07:00

Grandparents 'becoming parents again' - Breaking News - National - Breaking News

Daily and Sunday Review - 'It Takes a Village' trainers help county agencies promote family group decision making

2006-05-23T07:27:00.000-07:00

Daily and Sunday Review - 'It Takes a Village' trainers help county agencies promote family group decision making

Building Wealth and Strong Families

2006-05-22T15:40:00.000-07:00

The following book is a rare find; It speaks of building wealth within a context that is totaly compatible with the principles of
The Good Sons Club.

Father's Day 2006 in Chicago

2006-05-22T08:14:00.000-07:00

Father's Day 2006 in Chicago

Event to help grandparents who raise kids - Bangornews.com Staff

2006-05-20T08:37:00.000-07:00

Event to help grandparents who raise kids - Bangornews.com Staff

The Seattle Times: Living: Who would raise your kids?

2006-05-20T08:36:00.000-07:00

The Seattle Times: Living: Who would raise your kids?

Get Inspired For Fathers Day!

2006-05-19T14:51:00.000-07:00

Get inspired by the stories of good fathers:

Welcome To The Good Sons Club!

2006-05-18T15:37:00.000-07:00

Grandparents Today: News

2006-05-17T17:13:00.000-07:00

Grandparents Today: News

General News of Monday, 15 May 2006

2006-05-17T17:09:00.000-07:00

International Family Day
General News of Monday, 15 May 2006

Beacon Journal | 05/12/2006 | Cavaliers' Hughes is where he should be

2006-05-15T14:12:00.000-07:00

Good Sons Make Good Brothers
Beacon Journal 05/12/2006 Cavaliers' Hughes is where he should be

Mothers Honored by SUN Weekend

2006-05-15T10:23:00.000-07:00

SUN Weekend

Florence Nightingale Pledge

2006-05-10T14:16:00.000-07:00

Florence Nightingale Pledge

Nurses Week

2006-05-10T14:15:00.000-07:00

Nurses Week

How Baby Boomers Will Change Retirement - Many Will Mix Work and Play

2006-05-09T16:05:00.000-07:00

How Baby Boomers Will Change Retirement - Many Will Mix Work and Play

The Seattle Times: Living: Who would raise your kids?

2006-05-09T14:39:00.000-07:00

The Seattle Times: Living: Who would raise your kids?

Are We Prepared For The Care Giver Role?

2006-05-08T15:26:00.000-07:00

Thoughtful and clear headed preparation always minimizes stress. Prevention and preparation work hand in hand. Sometimes we can prevent things from being worse. At other time we can prepare for the worst. Always we can embrace the way things are as an opportunity for growth.

Whenever I am in the midst of a health care crisis, I recall my grandmother. The lady was such a skilled care giver and a strong person. The fact is she grew strong as a result of trials by fire. A husband who had a lifelong battle with illness and seven children. All her children experienced illness and one that died of a childhood ailment. Extended family relied on her skills as did neighbors and friends. My grandmother was also skilled at preventing illness and was quick to make sure a small matter did not become a big one. It was with a combination of prevention and preparation.

Today we have many more tool;s to practice the art of care giver. Both prevention and preparation are easier then when our grandparents.

The following are items or publications that help with preparation and prevention:

Family illness, death may be harder on women�|�Reuters.com

2006-05-05T10:06:00.000-07:00

Family illness, death may be harder on women��Reuters.com

This Months Theme: Care Giving

2006-05-02T18:34:00.000-07:00

As family members we will have the opportunity to provide or benefit from care giving. It will often be trying, difficult, and fraught with conflicting emotions. Let us face such adversity with skill and grace.

Grandparents Today: Articles: Keeping Cousins Close

2006-04-26T15:53:00.000-07:00

Grandparents Today: Articles: Keeping Cousins Close

IBNLive : Extended family system in Kashmir

2006-04-26T15:52:00.000-07:00

IBNLive : Extended family system in Kashmir

Jamaica Gleaner News - ... life - Family reunion - Saturday | March 25, 2006

2006-04-26T15:49:00.000-07:00

Jamaica Gleaner News - ... life - Family reunion - Saturday March 25, 2006

Grandparents Today: Articles: Your First Grandchild

2006-04-26T15:30:00.000-07:00

Grandparents Today: Articles: Your First Grandchild

30 years ago today, the first Vietnamese boat people arrived - National

2006-04-25T17:37:00.000-07:00

30 years ago today, the first Vietnamese boat people arrived - National